How to play this or that
- One person reads out two choices, like "coffee or tea?"
- Everyone answers in three seconds. No thinking, no explaining.
- For a score, two of you write your answers down first, then reveal. Count the matches.
This or that is faster than would you rather. It's two simple things, not a story. For longer questions, try our would you rather questions.
Food and drink
- Coffee or tea?
- Sweet or savoury?
- Pizza or burgers?
- Breakfast or dinner?
- Spicy or mild?
- Cook at home or order in?
- Chocolate or vanilla?
- Rice or noodles?
- Fruit or cake?
- Brunch or late-night supper?
Everyday life
- Morning or night?
- Text or call?
- Shower in the morning or at night?
- Cats or dogs?
- Summer or winter?
- Window seat or aisle seat?
- Sneakers or sandals?
- Tidy desk or messy desk?
- Alarm or wake up on your own?
- Early or exactly on time?
Free time
- Films or series?
- Beach or mountains?
- Books or podcasts?
- Board games or video games?
- Concert or theatre?
- Road trip or flight?
- Plan everything or wing it?
- Stay in or go out?
- Karaoke or dancing?
- City break or nature trip?
This or that for couples
- Big wedding or small wedding?
- Breakfast in bed or dinner out?
- Surprise or planned?
- Love letter or playlist?
- Sunrise or sunset?
- Big gesture or small kindness?
- Cook together or one of us cooks?
- Movie night or game night?
- Holding hands or arm in arm?
- Matching outfits or never, ever?
This or that for work
- Office or home?
- Chat message or email?
- Morning meetings or afternoon meetings?
- Lunch at your desk or lunch out?
- Headphones on or off?
- Team lunch or team outing?
- Coffee run or snack drawer?
- Notebook or notes app?
- Weekly plan or daily plan?
- Big screen or laptop only?
The hard ones
- Past or future?
- Money or time?
- Brains or luck?
- Read minds or fly?
- Quiet life or big adventure?
- Loved or respected?
- Lots of friends or a few close ones?
- Honest or kind?
- New job or new city?
- Know the future or change the past?
This or that as a couples game
Both of you write your answers to 10 questions without looking. Then read them out together.
- 0 to 3 the same: opposites attract.
- 4 to 6: a good mix.
- 7 to 9: very in sync.
- 10: are you sure you didn't peek?
Or let In Sync do it. You each pick in secret on one phone or two, the answers reveal at the same moment, and it adds up your "% in sync" score. It's free and takes about 10 minutes.
Questions
What are this or that questions? Quick questions with two choices, like coffee or tea, or beach or mountains. You pick one fast without explaining. They're a quick way to get to know someone.
How do you play this or that with your partner? Both write your answers to the same questions without looking, then reveal and count the matches. In Sync, a free game for two, does the same on your phones and keeps the score.
What's the difference between this or that and would you rather? This or that is two simple things and a quick answer. Would you rather is usually a bigger, harder choice that people explain.
Are these questions okay for work and family? Yes. Every question on this page is safe for work and for all ages.
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